The American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the prevailing resource for diagnostic criteria of paraphilias, describes the essential feature of paraphilias as recurrent, intense, sexual urges and sexually arousing fantasies generally involving nonhuman objects, the suffering or humiliation of oneself or partner, or children or other non consenting persons.
Fetishes specifically are the use of non-sexual or nonliving objects or part of a person’s body to gain sexual excitement. Partialism refers to fetishes specifically involving non-sexual parts of the body.
So what’s the difference between fetish, a preference, or a turn-on? Most importantly is there something wrong with having a fetish? One school of thought suggests there’s only a problem if the person reports distress. However, many people never report distress, due to under-reporting from embarrassment and/or being comfortable with the fetish. The argument against fetishism states, that fetishes inhibit the sexual desire for intimate, interactive sex due to narrow scope of the fetish.
As a health educator, interested in sex, this topic intrigues me. In a healthy adult sexual relationship, shouldn’t we push the envelope? Why not experiment with various objects, to enhance or awaken a snooze of a sex life. Listed below are some of the more shocking fetishes, and after reading them, you be the judge…can they enhance sex play or will they harm it?!
Agalmatophilia: Mannequin Love, People with mannequin love, or agalmatophilia, may also be attracted to a doll or statue.
Ursusagalmatophilia: Plushies, some people like to dress up like animals, calling themselves “furries” or “plushies” and seeking out like-minded individuals.
Acrotomophilia: Body parts, these individuals want to get it on with amputees, better known as someone missing a limb.
Salirophilia: Dirty and flirty, this involves getting a partner dirty, by smearing make-up, messing up hair, covering them in mud or filth and, or ripping off clothes.
Paraphilic Infantilism: Babes in Toyland, this fetish involves being diapered like an infant, drinking from a bottle, sleeping in crib…being burped. You get the picture, this just aint baby talk.
Hybristophilia: Crimes of passion, involve women that are attracted to criminals, including those serving time for unspeakable crimes.
Hematolagnia: Blood suckers, use or drink blood in a sexual way, or have erotic thoughts about blood.
Mechanophilia: Love machine, the exhibitionism associated with this includes but is not limited to, love for cars, trucks and other metal gadgets.
Odaxelagnia: Bite Me, not necessarily related to hematolangnia, but if you have the fetish you love to bite your partner or be bitten by them.
Autoandrophilia: Boys will be girls; this fetish goes for straight, gay, or bisexual women who derive pleasure from dressing like a man.
So now that we have listed some of what makes many of our peers tingle, are these and other fetishes ok? Notably, fetishists, are more likely to be men that usually masturbate touching or looking at specific items. Once that no longer get’s the motor running the fetish may escalate to involve other people. But of course women also practice fetishism. The professionals do not agree where all fetishes come from, but some theorize an experience as a young child while masturbating, or other early sexual enigma, may be the foundation of the fetish sex play.
So remix fans, tell me one fetish you have discovered or reference one of the above that I listed and let me know what you think. Good, bad, or indifferent. THE GOOD, THE BETTER AND THE BEST STILL TO COME.